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    I voted yes, although I think it is stupid. Why get married if you're going to continue living like an individual? I agree with Sean, when you get married you're creating a family unit and there should be one name. BUT, I know that a lot of people don't think like this. Some women keep their maiden names and as long as it doesn't cause any practical issues, I don't see a reason to forbid it.

    I couldn't wait to get rid of my maiden name. It was ugly and I hated it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by larali View Post
    I voted yes, although I think it is stupid. Why get married if you're going to continue living like an individual? I agree with Sean, when you get married you're creating a family unit and there should be one name. BUT, I know that a lot of people don't think like this. Some women keep their maiden names and as long as it doesn't cause any practical issues, I don't see a reason to forbid it.

    I couldn't wait to get rid of my maiden name. It was ugly and I hated it.
    Your last sentence is making the whole post subjective to your likes, on my case, my maiden mae(maternal) is beautiful and I like it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Humata View Post
    Unless there's some Biblical passage I'm not aware of that explicitly states "a family can only have one name", can you give a reason why they can't?
    It gives the impression of unity.
    -If the husband has one name, the wife another and the kids another there is not way to realize they are related.
    -When a woman takes her husband name it means she is someone else wife and other men will not hit on her, because she is already taken.
    -Also the bills and the invitations, people will call the family by one name and not by several names.
    -The kids must have the father name, i dont know how to explain this. Maybe a girl can adopt her mothers maiden name but it gives the false impression of two different families. A boy must have his father name, it means he is the son of someone and he should be respected because that. Woman are important too but they are not the head of a family that is why they should not pass their surname.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Helios View Post
    I accidentally voted yes as I'm on my phone and I expected "No" to be on the bottom.

    I vote no. Paternal lineage is far more important and the family should be completely named after the man.
    Why is paternal lineage far more important? Just wondering.

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    I read the post before and that sound a bit like if Women are the propriety of their men, they aren't , they are their partner . That sound like if the former name of a woman was the sygn she was the propriety of her father, and when she marry she change her name for become the propriety of her husband, like if she change of owner . I don't agree with that . It would be the best to mix both names for makes an egality between both .

    I always find that tradition was archaic
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    Quote Originally Posted by jibarodepr View Post
    Your last sentence is making the whole post subjective to your likes, on my case, my maiden mae(maternal) is beautiful and I like it.
    Yeah but even if I had liked my maiden name, I still would have changed it... I have no problem with the tradition, personally. It just simplifies things.

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    There is a good example right now in this forum:

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    Kaya Scodelario (Brazilian mother from Sao Paulo, English father)
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    Im not sure how English the father was with the surname Scodelario .
    Quote Originally Posted by Rebik View Post
    She has her mother's surname.
    Here is a picture of her mother:
    No one knows who is her real family.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sean View Post
    Do you think women should be allowed to keep their maiden name after married?

    I think no, because if they get married is because they want to start a family and a family can only have one name.
    Sure… but I certainly will never marry that type of woman.

    (I accidently voted 'no' instead of 'yes'. Women should be "allowed" as per the religion of the Marriage.)
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    Here it's normal for women to keep their maiden name in addition to their husband's last name like this: Catherine Peter (husband's last name)-Johansson (maiden name). The children receive their father's name, even though the woman stays with her maiden name they refer to her by her husbands last name. So basically only on documents will she be referred to by her full last name.

    That is also what I want for many reasons. One is that I don't want to lose my maiden name (entirely). Second of all it's a part of my identify and it's even more special to me because my father passed away. Also to be honest if later when I'm a professional and I'm not married yet, I wouldn't want to suddenly go from Ms. Johansson to Mrs. Peter, I'd stick to my maiden name then, it would also be all too confusing.

    Besides that's who I am, it's a part of my identify and 'what' I feel like. Let's say my boyfriends last name is Peter and if we were to get married someday and I'd take his last name, to be honest I wouldn't want to be referred to (at least professionally) as a Peter, since I don't "feel" like a Peter, I feel like a Johansson.

    Of course on an emotional level, it is nice to have that union, and to have his last name and to be his, but I also have an independent side, so maybe that's just me.
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    Well the institution of marriage is all fucked up in the West today, but if I ever meet an exceptional woman who somehow convinces me that marrying her is in my best interest she will have to take my name. She can keep her maiden name as her middle name, though.

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